Writing to Your Child

Many sponsors choose to write to their child. Through an exchange of thoughts and ideas, you can stimulate a child’s self-esteem, nurture achievement and foster a desire for learning. If you decide you want to write to your child, here are a few guidelines and ideas to help make correspondence easier, more effective, and more rewarding for you and your sponsored child.

Good Letter Writing Basics
Do's and Don'ts


  • Do keep sentences short and the language simple.
  • Do include a variety of subjects that may interest your child.
  • Do try and maintain a balance between your news and questions for your child.
  • Do keep the tone of your letters friendly and warm.
  • Do keep in mind that each letter is an educational experience for the child. When you ask questions, try and phrase them so that they require an answer of more then one word. You can ask for descriptions, thoughts and ideas.
  • Do ask age appropriate questions.
  • Do feel free to send postcards or birthday cards, they will become prize possessions.
  • Do send photographs of you and your family keeping in mind that photos of individuals in revealing clothing may be offensive.
  • Do send flat envelops.
  • Do comment on and give praise for any progress in letter writing, a general trait or interest you have learned about them, or on something they have accomplished (i.e. You’re drawing is very colorful. You’re a good helper. You must be a very good cricket player. Your grades are very good.)


  • Don’t use slang expressions; they can be difficult to translate correctly. Please write carefully to avoid confusion in interpretation.
  • Don’t send packages; large gifts may create animosity between your sponsored child and their peers who may have not received gifts.
  • Don’t discuss materialistic issues. For a child that has come from of life of poverty and abandonment, these types of images may be difficult to understand. Please also consider this when you send photos or describe your personal surroundings.
  • Don’t send money or checks directly to your children.
  • Don’t talk about death or sickness, or ask your child questions that may be very sensitive.

Examples of Topics to Discuss With Your Child:

  • Describe your city, country, or town where you live, the climate in your country and what the surrounding look like in different seasons.
  • You can tell about your interests and hobbies and ask about theirs.
  • Ask your child to describe what he/she does on an average day.
  • Ask for a written description or drawing of the orphanage.
  • Describe the customs and traditions or your country, the holidays you celebrate, the types of food you enjoy, the ceremonies you perform.
  • You can ask your children to write your sponsored child. It may be interesting for them to discuss the school they attend and in what ways their school days are similar and different.
  • Ask your sponsored child’s favorite game, sport, or activity.
  • Ask your sponsored child about their hopes and dreams.
  • Tell your child what qualities you like about yourself and ask what they like about themselves.
  • Ask about school, and your child’s favorite and least favorite subject. Ask why. Take every opportunity to encourage your child to work hard and do well in school.
  • You can ask your child to teach you how to do something, maybe one of the chores your child is responsible for. You can do the same.
  • Start up a game by mail.
  • Share a funny story with your child.
  • You can send your child a story and challenge them to read it and then it discuss with you.
A Special Child

Chandravathani Chandran
9 Years Old
Chandravathani is a joyful nine year old girl. She was born on Jan 20, 1996. Chandravathani enjoys reading and playing net ball. When Chandravathani gets older, she dreams of becoming a teacher. Her favorite subjects in school are math and English.


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